This afternoon missed a call at work and the ID said "Chuck" aka Jab's brother and I was wondering "Hmm? probably to talk about our tribute to his brother."
BUT WHOA. When I called back, I never really expected to be talking to his Mom. This would be the first time speaking to her since she told me Jab was in the hospital. She said that she had saw that we were doing "Be Like Jabronisaur Day" II and wanted to thank me for keeping his memory alive and I was like without a doubt, this is and will forever be a time honoured tradition where we pay tribute to this great man known as Jab. That our messages and tributes to Jab, and revealing what an amazing person he was online really helped them through the difficult times. And I told her likewise, when we get stories of Tim Marks the man in real life. It really does not surprise me at all that he was equally as humble and kind.
Seriously. I cannot thank HER and the Marks Family enough for allowing a brother like Jab to be part of this JPH!P Family. Raising such a wonderful human being. She said that she had an email that she had not sent, because she was not great with computers - and that Jab was always there to help her. She was staying strong with the power of God, but it really is still hard to accept two years later. Just missing his physical being can be so hard, especially since she had lost her older son a year before.
We got real emotional, like she was tearing up, me choking up. It had really caught me off guard because I expected "Chuck" his brother - but it really gives me the feeling that hey, I'm doing something right here. There's no replies, responses but dammit, I am going to represent and tell the world of what Jabronisaur meant to JPHiP Community.
Jab's family really follow what goes on at the JPH!P so I do I encourage everyone to drop a message. She even said that his brother and father (they live 2 hrs away) really wanted to join the next World Tour, they thought it was in Atlanta somehow. Maybe saw me mention it in JPHiP Facebook? but I said BRING IT! And likewise, when I get the means, I'd want to go down and visit them too. She brought up the fact Ping had came to visit shortly after Jab's passing, and I said yes. That's my brother from NYC driving all the way down. We FAM like that.
They taped the replay of the radio show (which I will do again, and add new tribute messages) listening to it over and over, just amazed at the new world that he devoted so much of his later life to. They had no idea what an influence he was to us.
Been digesting it all in, telling me like she still has all his stuff and doesn't know what to do, said I was welcome to come anytime.
These are the reasons why JPH!P is above and beyond the best community out there. If we can make a difference in someone's life, the reward is priceless. This is what we learned from Jabronisaur and I hope the future generations of HiPstaz learn from him.
I made her chuckle that "If I have to do 999 good deeds myself, to honour Jab, I will." but fo realz. She mentioned that she saw the post about ChrNo passing, and I said that there has we have lost 3 great members in our history, but we rise up and live our life strong to honour them.
This is the message she sent me shortly after we hung up, a good 15 minutes or so...
Subject: Fw: Thank you to JPHiP
I wrote this last year, I was a wreck. I thought I had sent it but later found it still in my draft folder. I held onto it because time has not changed much for me, it still feels like he should be here. It still is not real. I have things of his that I don’t know what to do with. I know that it will get better but for now it still hurts more than I can say. God Bless you all for your friendship and love for Tim. Thanks for keeping his memory alive. He would be so proud but he would say he doesn’t deserve it he was a very humble man with such a sweet spirit. Thanks again.
Monday, July 19, 2010 12:31 AM
Subject: Thank you to JPHiP
A Great Big thank you to daigong @JPHiP.com for the gourmet cookies he sent. The message on the package "Missing you every day Tim." "Jabronisaur lives on through JPHiP.com. We'll make you proud!" I didn't see this mentioned in the good deeds done (ie; sent cookies to Tim's family in remembrance).
These are my thoughts. ( I just think that Tim would have been on those cookies like white on rice.) What an incredibly thoughtful thing to do.
I could not stop crying as I read the messages one after the other. I will treasure these tributes from each of you for a very long time. I listened all day Friday and into the night to the replay of his shows. It was like a visit with him. So sweet and sad its so hard to believe he is gone. But we will see him again.
A lot of the comments ended with "wherever you are..." Tim was a Christian, he believed in Jesus and accepted Him as his Savior, because of that his sins were forgiven; past, present and future. Tim did not die, his spirit went to heaven. We believe this because the Bible says; "to be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord." So we know that he is in heaven and we will see him again.
...really just made me even more determined than ever to keep Jab's legacy and all The Legends of JPH!P going strong. marimari Pangya golf tourney is scheduled for the end of the month on July 30th. And ChrNo's birthday July 31st is when we will drop JKM JPH!P Remix with more special verses, and there is a huge package of Berryz Goodz I intend to send to her. That is why we keep doing what we do. Like I don't care if we have like 10 visitors and dem other sites rolling in the billions, as long as we have each other, the memories - good and the bad, we keep on growing as FAM. The time I hung in the trenches with Jab and the HiPstaz outweighed the one second glance Takhashi Ai gave us. It is dem connections I made with everyone here that has made the difference.
And when someone asks you what JPH!P is about, this is just what I tell em